May 26, 2006 7:32 PM Friday, Jacksonville, Florida           

 

I’m for it; tagged from Lanie P: My 10 Life’s Simple Pleasure

1. Cuddling up with DH and hearing/feeling his ‘sweet-nothings’ every single day and night ;-). So far, for 9 years; 2 years of courtship/dating and nearly 7 years of marriage, he never failed to express his love to me either in spoken words, love-notes, in actions or both.  I am optimistically looking forward to live with his love ‘til life after death.
    

2. Going to Church on Sunday morning with DH; after the Mass, we either eat out or drive-thru for lunch then we take a long afternoon nap ;-)
    

3. My generous, loving and accepting mother-in-law, brother-in-law and other extended in-laws.
    

4. My best friend and genuine friends:  I enjoy talking or karaoke-partying with Pinay friends.
   I cherish friendship and always take pleasure in having true online/off-line friends.
    

5. Going for bike ride with DH, my brother-in-law and other bikers.
    

6. Cooking-out/BBQ in our backyard with my in-laws.
    

7. Flying to meet up with my true online friends in other states/countries:  I am scheduled to fly to Michigan to visit Lanie P and her family on August 2006. Hey, I will only pay a visit to the real good ones. You know those true friends who don't stub you behind your back.  
    

8. Toys:  PC/Laptop - surfing the net, blogging and blog-hopping
             Cellphone   - blabbing on the phone with family and friends
             iPod             - listening to audio-books/music/radio
             HDTV          - watching my fav shows in a big crystal clear screen
    

9. Window shopping but I can't help it sometimes.  I delight in buying new shoes and business suits.
    

10. Vacation/travel/trips.

                  Marie, Ate Vicks, Rose, Ger, In-In, Mel, Pham, Bless, Juliet: You are tagged!

 

Soul2Soul: Tim Mcgraw & Faith Hill Concert
 

 

Grammy-award winner; country star Tim McGraw and his wife, Faith Hill will be performing at the Jacksonville Veterans Memorial Arena on Sunday, May. 28th, 8:00 PM. I am glad Monday is a holiday (Memorial Day!) Yaay!

Guess who is going to be my ‘date’ in this concert? No one else but my concert fanatic brother-in-law, Kuya Allen again. The first concert we watch together was the Shania Twain's concert back in 2004.   For those who don't know, Kuya Allen by the way is the only sibling of my darling husband.

DH and Kuya Allen are kinda’ opposite in some ways. DH is also fond of country music as well but he'd rather stay home to have a quiet moment than join the thunderous crowd.  Also if you look at the two, you wouldn’t really think they are siblings because you can’t find any resemblance between the two whatsoever. Although Kuya Allen is 3 years older than DH yet DH is twice the size/weight and about 8 inches taller than his older brother. DH is of course more guapo! No kidding; I am not bias ;-)

 

 

May 19, 2006 9:50 PM Friday, Jacksonville, Florida           

Boost up my spirit!

First off, big thanks to Kuya Allen, Sandy, Ate Vicks, Lanie, In~in and Rose for cheering me up in regards to my previous post :-) 

A couple of days ago I chanced upon these two articles from MSN which somehow boost up my spirit for not having kids; not that I don't want any kids. Of course I do but what I mean is if we can't really have any kids then that means we will be better off in the future ;-) 

9 financial shocks for new parents
By Bankrate

According to a recent study by the U.S. Department of Agriculture, it costs a middle-income family $250,000 to raise a child from birth to age 17. And that doesn't include the cost of a college education.  Here are the top nine financial shocks that parents face when they add a child to their family....read more

Mama Don't Preach: Thoughts on Respecting Parenthood Decisions
By Amy Reiter

But parenthood as panacea? I'm not buying it, and neither should anyone who's not really into the idea of being a mom or pop. I'm here as a new parent to stand up for all those non-parents out there -- the ones who haven't yet made up their minds about kids and the ones who definitely have -- and proclaim that there is nothing wrong with not having children. I did it for more than three decades and led what I'd consider a pretty rich life, filled with learning, love, travel, adventure, laughter...and other people's children.

You're not being selfish. Your life won't be empty. And you're certainly not destined for a sad, lonely end. People can find meaning in their lives in ways that don't include progeny.... read more

 

14th Annual World of Nations Celebration!


In May 5-7, the City of Jacksonville Metropolitan Park was transformed into a fascinating cultural destination that showcases the city's unique cultural diversity. In this celebration, we experienced the rich cultural traditions and unique heritage of USA, Norway, Panama, Brazil, Peru, Poland, South Korea, Ethiopia, Ghana, Cuba, Columbia, Dominican Republic, Taiwan, French Caribbean, Jamaica, Puerto Rico, Cambodia, Venezuela, Scandinavian, Bahamas, Haiti, Mexico, India, China, Nigeria, Vietnam, Kenya, Laos, Italy, Turkey, Africa and Philippines. 


DH and I went in that Friday, May 5 during the opening of International Party. We were able to get our passports stamped and sightsee around the world for free :-) We browsed through a beautiful marketplace, tried unique global cuisine and witnessed exciting array of entertainment of each nation. We had fun :-)

May 1, 2006 7:21 PM Monday, Jacksonville, Florida           

Non-Stop Nagging!

marriage are incomplete? (I say Filipino because I don’t habitually heard this nagging inquest from my Western family and friends).

I am sure most of you can relate to these never-ending insensitive questions I have had to put up with my own family and friends whenever we get see each other, chat, exchange email or talk on the phone:

When I was 18 to 31 years old, single with no boyfriend, I nearly went deaf with these non-stop indiscreet questions: “Do you have boyfriend yet? When are you going to get yourself a boyfriend?"    After I got married at 33, “Are you pregnant yet?” “When are you planning to have a baby?”  

Subsequent to my first miscarriage at aged 35: “When are you going get pregnant again? “Are you pregnant yet?” Remember, you are not getting any younger. You’ve got to do something to get pregnant again. You need to have a baby even just one!”

Oh my God! It is as if it is my own dammed choice not to get pregnant!!!

Of course they are very much aware of my case because I told them so...  I am so passionate to have children of my own so much so that I even more than willing to have two kids at the most if it is that easy for me to get pregnant but unfortunately it wasn’t....yes, people I am barren :(

Lately, the pressure is on, worse than I can ever imagine. They now go to the extreme by trying to impressively persuade me to adopt just to have a child of my own.  Another fellow blurted out, “You live in America. Why don’t you try to have a ‘test tube baby’ then?"

These folks have no clue what they were talking about.  What’s even more absurd was they make it sound like adopting a child is as easy as adopting a cat or a dog and having a ‘test tube baby’ is as simple as having your blood drawn. What were they thinking? Or do they even think before they spit words out of their mouth? No clue whatsoever!!!

Okay and just so you know at this point in time, I’d rather save our hard-earned money for our retirement than go over board to spend $25,000 to $35,000 in one shot either by trying to have a test tube baby or adopting a child so as to satisfy the implacable demands of these folks. I mean if we have that much spare money as in cash on hand to spend on, why not?  But as you all know, we work hard for a living. Judge me for being selfish if you must but I rather not have kids than seeing myself busting my ass off juggling between kids, household chores and work then still work hard until after my retirement years. Sorry, I already went through all those adversities early on in life and I know exactly how it felt to live a life of penury.  I don’t want to relive that kind of life again especially now that I am approaching the midlife phase of my existence.  Sometimes, I reckon, with 6 billion people on the planet and millions of famished children all over the world, I no longer in dire need for that number to grow even more.

While I concurred with most, if not all couples, who see children as a complete joy, a priceless gift – as they truly are but having children either by birth or adoption do not always equate or guarantee happiness or completeness of being a woman/wife. Not all infertile women are miserable! 

There is life and joy for not having kids after all. Well, I suppose this testimony is more prevalent to those couples who remained childless-by-choice but somehow, part of me is in exultation for not having kids because then I get to live a more spontaneous lifestyle than one that is planned all the time when you have children. There are countless of couples/wives out there that are, without a doubt, happier despite not having children. I am content and happy with my marriage regardless and that’s all that matters to me. I believe DH and I are meant to be together ‘just the two of us’ till death do us part. Ain't that Sweet? :-)

Nonetheless, I hope you folks out there would stop telling me what to do.  Just STOP nagging me would you?  I repeat, we have no plan whatsoever to adopt a child nor any intention to try to have a test tube baby. If it happens, it happens. If not, well then tough luck!  Maybe I am not fit to be a mother. Who knows?? Heck, I am not going to stress out myself with it because I know that won’t do me any good. I intend to live a much happier life. Thank you very much :-)

Anyhow, whenever my ‘baby paroxysm’ kicks in, I just indulge myself with baby-sitting friends’ children. Like last Sunday, I offered to baby-sit Will (Bill and Marie's 14 month old son). We had fun…  I took him to the mall later that afternoon and he had a ball playing with other kids in the playground while Bill and Marie went for a romantic date ;-).   At the end of the day, I had enough and I get to turn in the kid back to his parents.  Here’s the link to Will’s photos savoring every bit of ice-cream and playing with other kids in the playground.  Will is such a good and happy kid.

On the lighter side, I am happy to note my nephew (JayJay) and niece (JoyJoy) are doing great in school. JayJay just graduated from high school and is planning to take BS Nursing.  JoyJoy will be in the 3rd grade next year. I have one more niece (KimKim) who did extremely well in school and Honey did very satisfactory too but I haven’t received their grades yet.  The rests are 'bugok'! 

Here's an excerpt from JayJay's latest Email to me:

Hi 'te!

     How's your Lenten week 'te? Or do you also celebrate it in there? We came home last Sunday 'te, had a few days of vacation. Joy spent two weeks in Marbel she went along with Lolo Eddie when they came here during my graduation. If I had no activities here in Digos I would probably spend half summer vacation in there and escape the household chores from Mom.

     Well everything went fine 'te, there was a small banquet, I guess that's what they said to be the celebration for the four graduates. Ante Cecil also had given birth, 2ND week of April, and again it was a boy. His name is Vince.

Last Tuesday, Joy and I we're able to get our report cards. Mommy has some pictures to mail to you.

Joy-Joy's Academic grades	1st	2nd	3rd	4th	Finals
English	94	95	94	95	95
Bible/Character Building	94	95	94	95	95
Mathematics	93	94	94	93	93
Filipino	93	94	94	93	93
Music/Home Economics	94	94	94	95	95
Computer	B	B	A	A-	A
Conduct	B	B	B	B	B
AVERAGE:  94.6%
My Academic grades
	1st	2nd	3rd	4th	Finals
English	87	92	91	91	91
Social Studies	95	95	96	96	96
Mathematics	86	88	91	92	92
Filipino	95	90	92	93	93
Technology/Home Economics	90	93	91	96	96
Music/Citizen Army Training/P.E.	96	95	94	95	95
Science	90	92	92	91	91
Conduct	B	B	B	B	B
AVERAGE:   93.28%

That's all for now 'te, Ayo-Ayo. Regards to Uncle Tony.

Congratulations, JayJay and JoyJoy.  I am so proud of you :-)